VERY tricky and unusual situation with a friend? Desperately need advice on what I can say?
I have a very good friend who is extremely overweight. I think it is over 350 pounds (just to give you an idea). She is an absolutely lovely lady, and a very good friend, and my children are friends with hers, etc.
My only problem is that over the time I’ve known her, she has broken various items of my furniture, dining chairs, recliner armchair, outdoor seating benches, and also the passenger seat of my car twice.
I can’t exactly tell her to stop visiting, or put her off, as she would guess there was a reason, does anybody have ANY suggestions on what I can do to stop having to replace things all the time? All suggestions are welcome, but serious answers only please.
Also, just wanted to add, that as a friend I have thought of encouraging her to undertake a healthier lifestyle (ie, weight loss), but she is perfectly happy with herself (as she should be), so that wouldn’t be a good idea. Thanks.
What a difficult problem! This actually happened with my Dad many years ago, at a time he was quite overweight. My sister and her hubby had just bought a new dining setting and Dad sat in one of the chairs and it just collapsed under his weight.
We all teased him a little (not too much because fat people have feelings too!), but what my sis did was go and buy one very good strong plastic chair and whenever Dad came to visit, that is where he was seated. She put a cushion on it etc, and told him that for his own comfort and safety, that was the chair he was to use.
She bought it from a commercial supplier of outdoor furniture, so it was really tough and after that they never had any problems.
As it was plastic and therefore lightweight, Dad would simply move the chair from room to room wherever he went, and bring it to the tv room, the dining table, wherever.
True, it did not match her other furniture, but when guests (not Dad) were there, she could simply put it outside, as it would not matter if it got wet, etc.
As far as your car goes, Dad had to have a special seat installed in his car to carry his weight. It was very expensive, so maybe you should just use her car or a taxi if you go anywhere?
Best wishes and good luck, your friend is fortunate to have a thoughtful friend such as you 
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